Lack of Confidence

Here is a case study from my practice:

A women of 34 comes for a session to work on her confidence. The main symptoms she is experiencing is not believing she can be worthy of love, getting anxious in front of people, not speaking up for herself, not setting the boundaries for her parents and her siblings. She wants to live her own life and to have high self-esteem, to be open to new relationship and to be able to say no when she wants to set the boundaries for her family members

 

When we go into hypnosis, we uncover multiple scenes of manipulation from parents, the roles she took on herself to fit in and to be a part of the group. All the beliefs she made in childhood that are still controlling her life. It was a surprise to her to realize how her subconscious mind is ruling her reactions because it is stuck in the beliefs of a 7 or 8 years old girl. She understood why she is still holding onto the opinions of her parents and her siblings and how that stops her from taking responsibility for her life.

 

We go in other scenes that uncover the root of her social anxiety – the memory where she was embarrassed in front of her student peers at college exam. Right after that she isolated herself from people and started to avoid groups, parties, gatherings. 

 

Of course, hypnotherapy sessions are emotional, but so liberating. 

 

After 2 hour session, reconnecting to herself, reparenting herself and releasing old emotions, she was able to take a full breath and feel the power she has over her life. That life is happening for her not to her and no one but herself can create her desired reality.

 

In this session, my client had immediate changes. She was able to speak confidently in public and to set the boundaries for her parents. 

 

Of course, everything has a price and her parents were not happy with her changes. But once the train starts moving, there is no way back. That is what happened to her. She started to expand her awareness, becoming more and more confident. She also realized that she is willing to pay the price for her confidence. That at some point old friendships will disappear and some connections will loosen. But closing one door, she was opening a door of healing, of coming back to herself.

 

In 21 day she updated me on her progress. She saw immediate changes in her posture, in her tonality, in how openly she started to express her emotions. She literally said: I feel like after 34 years I finally woke up from a long sleep.

 

Isn’t it worth it?

 

It doesn’t matter how old you are, what story is behind you, the best part of being an adult is to be able to change everything, to reprogram your mind and to create the rules you want to live by.